1. My chest hurts... what a way to start of a day's entry, eh?!... hahaha. It's true though. I'm definitely feeling the effects of restarting my weight training, and I'm lovin' it!!!
2. Had Hongik Fitness all to myself today during training... nice. I should have brought my camera and broke out some of my royal poser poses... hahaha.
3. Had a strange encounter with one of the workers at the GS 25 store that's located on the first floor of my building. He asked me where I've been and noted that he hasn't seen me around lately. I told him that it's cause I'm on vacation now and so I have no real set schedule. But as I walked away, it hit me... I don't recall ever meeting this guy, let alone ever seeing him... strange, very strange.
4. Having Korean fonts temporarily unavailable on my computer is killing my social life with my peeps on msn. As if I needed my already dwindling social life, and lack there of it, to suffer any more loses.
5. Day two of the super early spring that apparently has taken over Cheonan... wicked. Sorry to hear about your chilly -10 degrees there my lovely Tundra bunnies out in Canada, but today Cheonan was sporting 10 degree sunny skies. That's pretty sweet for January and so I celebrated God's gift of sunshine overload and good weather by walking around outside in a light sweater.
6. The KB Bank manager was away on lunch today when I strolled in to do my monthly banking and so I had to deal with the annoying little stump of a security guard who freaks me out with his heavy breathing and webbed hands. I'm not down with any banking lingo in Korean, hence why I always deal with the manager who knows my routine. Thankfully though, some high school student offered to help me when he noticed the guard was clearly not understanding me.
7. My mother use to tell me that I could sell ice to Eskimos (sorry, "Inuits", to be politically correct) cause of my knack for words. Well, tonight I convinced Q he had to do poop duty and take Mi Nam out for a walk after I turned to him and said, "Well, you have two options, you can either give me a foot massage or walk Mi Nam." Hahaha... he choose walking Mi Nam but the joke was on him; he didn't have to do either... hahaha.
8. I said something the other day and it's still taunting me, which just goes to prove that a. I'm not a very nice girl and b. isn't life just so ironic?! So, what did I say, you ask, well, Q's been getting on my back about this upcoming weekend. It's the big Lunar New Year and so most Koreans will be returning to their hometowns to celebrate the long four-day weekend with family.... Q included, and he wants me to come along. Despite being a hit with most parents, I've been pretty good with avoiding the whole family scene. This time it was Q's aunt who asked Q to bring me. He kept on asking me why I didn't want to go and, although I had amble time to prepare a believable excuse, I blurted out, "... cause it's not like I'm going to marry you."
9. No sooner had I said that but I wanted to reach out to catch my words and swallow them. How ironic though, I thought.. The exact words that smashed my little Polish heart just some two years ago in Jeju Island have officially come back to me but this time I wasn't on the receiving end. It didn't quite feel as painful to say them as it did to hear them two years ago but I couldn't help but think I am a bad, bad girlfriend. Mothers... don't let me date your sons... I'm sure Q's mother, Mama Lee, is thinking the very same thing. Dang.
10. Stayed in tonight to do "damage clean-up" after totally shooting Q in the heart with my "... cause it's not like I'm going to marry you" stupid line. He's a persistent little dude though and so he dared enough to ask me again if I wanted to go to Daejon with him. I had anticipated this actually and so I had prepared a better line. "I can't cause of Mi Nam"... nice, put the blame on the innocent four-legged beast who sleeps about 60% of his day away.... hahaha. Sorry Mi Nam... take one for mama please ;)
QUESTION OF THE DAY...
How can you take your foot out of your mouth after damage is done?
QUOTE OF THE DAY...
If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it.
-- Anthony J. D'Angelo
As the story has it, one day I headed to the opposite side of the globe – the Flipside. I arrived in Korea February 16th, 2005 and thought I’d do a year, then leave. I was wrong. I stayed, launched my first company, Flipside Fitness, and then opened Korea's largest boxing club, Hulk's Boxing (now called Hulk's Club).
After 11.5yrs in Korea, I then picked up one day and returned to Toronto, Canada. But then I left again.
Now I live in the Philippines where I am the CEO and head coach of Empowered Clubhouse, the Philippines' first and only boxing clubhouse exclusively just for women. I also am the founder of the Lil' Sistas Project, CEO and designer of Slay Gear and Baa Baa Black Sheep .Ph.
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Oh my god, woman. What you are doing to Q is seriously fucked up. I know you don't like foul language in your comments, but man, there is no other way to put it. You're being cruel and selfish.
The worst part is that you've had it done to you and you're still messing with him.
I really don't understand even one possible reason why you would do this to a person you CLAIM to respect and love.
It is NOT respectful. It is NOT loving.
Seriously, all I want to know is WHY. Is the sex amazing? Do you really need a personal assistant that badly? Are you really that lonely in Korea (if so, why on earth did you sign on for another year)???
Can you explain to us why you are still with a man who wants more from you than you'll ever give him when you KNOW how hurtful that is? Please?
Yet another person who's NOT AMY but thinks they know what's best for her. Amy, you and I have had numerous, countless talks about this and so I think I have the right to comment on this post.
First and foremost, forget what everyone else says to you about this issue. They don't know you. If THEY DID know you then, well, you and I both know that they wouldn't be commenting or questioning about the sex. That right there told me this person didn't know you. You're probably the only girl that I know that is not attracted to sex. I think you described it to me once as "icky-sticky stuff you rather leave to the neighbours". You're indecisiveness stems from your indecisiveness about Canada. You're still not too sure as to whether or not you want to leave Korea and live in Canada. I understand this. Just try to be more careful. Don't be to Q what BH (the ex) was to you. You are beyond that and all the brutality that he brought on.
I think what people should be noting here is that you're with a man that has given you a pretty rough altimatium: Stay in Korea or lose me. That's what ticks me off about this all, not that you're this mean girlfriend, because you're not, but because you've been put in a position that most people wouldn't be able to handle let alone would stick around to try to figure out. You and Q definitely have a rough situation here to deal with but his nasty altimatium and you stalling on deciding on what you want more, Korea or Canada, is a situation I think you're trying your hardest to understand but it's really a lose-lose situation.
Remember, know when to stop. Stopping isn't necessarily giving up or quiting. Maybe it's what's needed to move on and grow.
Well, MJ, I'm confused. Are you saying Anon knows what's best for Amy or that you do?
So she's asexual or frigid. Yay for her.
But she's said over and over she wants to go back to Canada. So why stay with Q? Why be so needy? Amy acts like she's so strong and so tough and so independent and such a great "loner" (which, by the way, is an very loose and not very accurate translate of what that Korean word she keeps using really means). Yet she's clinging to this man?
She's telling him to catch fish and she'll marry him! That's a cute joke when you really do want to get married. It's mean when he obviously wants to marry you and you want nothing to do with it.
He clings to her, she clings to him. Codependency, sparkling!
Hey MJ,
I didn't say I knew what was best for Amy. I said she CLEARLY knows what is best for Q and is blatantly refusing to "man up" and be honest with him about her intentions.
And the sex line was obviously a joke, as Amy's made her feelings on that subject known in previous posts. I'm just trying to understand why she is choosing to be a 개새끼 about it.
You have a point about him giving her and ultimatum, but in the end if that's it, she should dump him and move on. She's given the impression she wouldn't be interested in marrying him even if he did agree to go with her to Canada.
Like Tershi said, you can't claim to be an independent, strong woman and continually display your co-dependence for the world.
Oh gosh.
Yet another long ramble and rant from strangers who pop their heads into Amy's business, me included.
Have you ever thought she's saying herself for marriage and that there's other issues at play here, issues that we all may not know about.
Ya, good for you people. Way to state your arguement without knowing all the facts.
And once again... I was asking for Amy to EXPLAIN the situation... not assuming I know what she should do. I want to know WHY she is knowingly being so cruel to someone she claims to love.
Ouch Amy, those are some rough words. But I think I know what place those words are coming from.
If my boyfriend told me he'd never leave India and move to Canada to be with, that would hurt beyond anything else, and perhaps I would stay with him because I care about him, and try and be hopeful, and I might say those same words to him to try and hurt him, because of him not wanting to make sacrifices for me would hurt.
Sometimes we have to look at not what we say but why we say them. And yes, i don't know you but I think a lot of it comes from the hurt from the past and also that you've made sacrifices to stay in Korea for Q, and he should make sacrifices for you.
But I also think Q is a big boy, and if he can't handle it or is unhappy then he knows where the door is, it's not only you're responsibility to make all the decisions.
I'm sure you're not feeling good about what you said, and i am certainly not here to judge you, I've certainly said things I regret too.
The word is "ultimatum".
I agree with poster #1.
Amy did say she regretted saying what she did, but when he brought it up meeting his folks again (giving her a chance to make things right), she says, "I can't because of my dog?"
W...T...F.
Poor Q! You treat the dog better than you do people you claim to love and want to be close to.
Maybe she just doesn't want to be around family. I was like that too when I stayed in Korea. It only made me more homesick. Afterall, it's not like Amy's not homesick enough. The last thing this girl needs is more reasons why to miss her family. It's a pure tease and it's mean.
Sex is icky? That's really sad. She's either had some VERY bad lovers in the past or there's something wrong with her. You don't have to go around sleeping with half the city, but sex with the person you love should be wonderful, not icky. That's a very weird thing to say.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think Amy has said that she loves Q. She keeps using other words, like "he's such a nice guy" or "I know he loves me." She obviously has trouble being alone, so he's providing the illusion that she has somebody. And about the comment that she may very well be saving herself for marriage, please... That's a bunch of bull coming from somebody who has no respect whatsoever for other people and who has no problem admitting that she is mean (and obviously has no problem using Q to avoid confronting life alone). If you're going to pick and choose Christian values as you see fit, then you're not a Christian at all.
Have you actually told Q that you're leaving for sure next year and that your relationship will be over then? Because I sense that you're not being totally upfront with him and that's why he keeps asking or saying things that involve more commitment that you're willing to give. Does he know he's such "padding" in your life until you're ready to move on? I don't he does. And he should.
Hi Amy! I don't really have much to say...Sometimes you say things you regret. I'm not here to judge you or what you do. It's your life, and I'm just the little bro watching from a distance.
Love Always,
-Bman
<3<3<3
Hey Amy, don't mean to be picky, but it's Lunar New Year, not Solar New Year.
I know I shouldn't be saying this but I feel as one of Amy's most admired friends that I should help set the record straight. Amy by no means needs to defend herself here and so I really doubt she will be replying to this messages you all left, all of which imply that most of you don't understand.
Last year was a really hard year for Amy because of a particular situation in which all but three people were aware of the full extent of it and the truth. Two of which were in Canada and whom Amy confided in. But because of this sitution, everything changed; he views on Q, sex, relationships, friendships, life, love, family, Korea, and Canada. It was a tramatizing event to which she still complains about suffering from nightmares about it.
Q is well aware that she is leaving next year but before you get your kicks with pointing the finger at him, know this. Q is the one that insisted they stay together till she leaves. Q is the one in denial, not Amy. Which is funny because she's already started to prepare for her departure since last summer but Q never wants to talk about it. Let them be people. Somethings in life just can't be explained. So what they don't have this picture perfect relationship but they have something. Amy's told me numerous times that she loves him and I know she does despite her coming off as different on her homepage.
Amy is an amazingly talented and beautiful person whom I have known for over 10 years and whom I would jump on a plane in a second if she asked me too.
I think all your words, for the most part that is, have been very ill-directed and hurtful. I warned Amy that people would say such garbage things but she insists that her family and friends appreciate her keeping up her homepage. Please don't ruin it for her or those of us who really do love this girl. Her homepage is just but a glimpse of her life but what you're poking at and trying to find is but only your interpretation of it.
Thanks Marc for helping me understand some of it.
However, I'm still curious then why Amy stayed for another year if her plan to go back to Canada started last summer. I think she may be sending Q some unintentional mixed signals.
She stayed another year because of numerous reasons, one being her involvement in Busan. She signed a deal with them and well, she can't get out of it, let's just say that. Moreover, I can't elaborate on it but I guess people don't know how much money she makes as a boxer. She ran into a big problem with being able to wire it fast enough for her expected March 1st departure date.
And she made no friends in Korea who could wire it for her? Um, if she's going to illegally box, I'm sure she can find an illegal way to get money home. It's not that hard. Men in Itaewon will do it for a small fee.
True but then again she's got to get rid of her apartment and there's a huge amount of cash there (deposit money).
You've always been such a sugga' mama Amy. Always a high roller, I'm jealous.
So can't Q help? Or is he suddenly going to disappear from her life and not help her if she needs it? Those are excuses, plain and simple. She didn't leave because she didn't want to (which is fine, if that was her decision). Saying that she "had" to stay behind to fix the money issue is just ridiculous.
I believe her friend Marc said "She stayed another year because of numerous reasons". It was plural.
Yeah, like her illegal contract in Busan that she "can't get out of." Can't get out of an illegal contract? Why? They'll break her teeth or something? So cool. I wanna be a boxer, too!
It's not that simple there Senex and I doubt you could be a boxer, or understand.
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