1. Got a lot of compliments today from students as they filed in the classroom and noted that I had recovered nicely from my Friday game. “There was no game” I told them and with that I told them why and then we chatted a bit about Panty Boy Jr and Snickers’ fight. I had assigned watching boxing on TV as homework… as a joke, of course.
2. Upon arriving at the boxing club, Junior Mint asked me to sit down so that he could talk to me. What’s up with these Monday terrible talks, I tell ya. First it was my game being postponed in last week’s Monday terrible talk and then today I got more bad news.
3. MY JULY 27th GAME HAS BEEN CANCELED. Not too sure what fell through for it to be canceled but I tell ya, if it has any link even remotely tied to the former Korean president, I might just go and dig him up myself to have a word with him. Then again, maybe another tournament might be canceled if I do that. Sarcastically speaking, and not so sarcastically speaking, let’s just hope no one else decides to commit suicide before my June 19th game or I’m going be royally ticked!
4. Not only was my game canceled but the whole tournament was. Junior Mint was one of the first to be notified today. Telling Snickers that his fight was canceled too really sucked. I thought he would have known before me, apparently not, and so he found out via a text message from me. I felt terrible. Junior Mint is pushing to score me the opening fight position for some world champion match that will be happening in August but we have no idea when or if that’ll go through, meaning that once again my trip plans to Canada this summer will have to be put on the back burner until I get word from KBC. This however means that Snickers won’t be traveling to Busan this week, which is probably the only positive point I can think up of.
5. Upon Tang teasing me today at boxing about my second game being canceled, Junior Mint invited me into the ring and told me to take one body shot at him. “I can handle a girl” he commented. One mean left body shot knocked the wind right out of him. “That’s where you’re wrong” I noted after. “I’m not a girl… I’m a woman.”
6. Not too sure whether it’s Junior Mint telling me he appreciates our hard training, him just being friendly, or him wanting us to break away from the stress of boxing, but he informed me today that he wants to take a bunch of us away on a sea-fishing trip this weekend. Plan is to leave early Saturday morning and return Sunday night. There are 9 that have been invited, one of which is Snickers.
7. The guys at boxing have been super cool with accepting the whole Amy’s-now-with-Snickers situation and today they asked us if we’ll be coming out to the next boxing dinner party. I got out of answering that question by circling around it. Not too sure if I want the added attention just yet that this situation would definitely score me if I bring it to the boxing dinner party table.
8. Yesterday’s conversation between Snickers and I got extended to tonight. Yesterday it was clear that Snickers was quite distracted watching the little kids as we walked around the Children’s Park. He had asked me if I wanted kids and I responded by saying, “Maybe… maybe one day I’ll buy a kid”… hahaha. He of course jumped all over the word “buy” in that sentence and asked me how many I’d like to “buy”. “Two” I responded, “one for home corner, one for away corner.” “What?!” was the expected response. “Sure” I added, “My kid’s going to need a sparring partner… hahaha”. Snickers on the other hand also wants a ref, judge and a fan but I noted to him that unless he has a lot of money to go buying these kids or wants to make popping out kids a hobby for his wife, that he better reconsider.
9. Snickers’ friends tried to lure me out tonight with promises of drinks, chicken and a fun soccer game, but I don't drink. They almost got me with the promise of chicken but with the soccer game starting at 11:30pm, it was way too late for this Pollack. I opted out and stayed home to study.
10. Last night Snickers and I got into quite the deep conversation about a particular ex-boyfriend of mine after he asked me why I ended the relationship with this guy if I was so in love with him. Well, one thing lead to another and secrets were told. Secrets I thought I had packed away and labeled “do not open”. Last night all those stashed away secrets were revealed to Snickers and it left him speechless, super fidgety and itching to punch the wall. Our conversation had gone into the wee hours and he ended up crashing at my house but I then I had a nightmare about this particular ex. It seemed all too real and I woke up totally sweating. Instead of bothering Snickers with my nightmare, I turned on the bathroom light, sat on the couch and fell asleep. A couple hours later Snickers woke up and panicked. “Amy?! AMY!” he yelled out. Today he lectured me about that, telling me that we’re a couple. “We share things… smiles, problems, thoughts, dreams… bad dreams” And then he made me pinky swear to him that if I ever had a nightmare again that I’d wake him up, whether he be a simple nudge away or in the opposite corner of the world. So tonight, after I had long gone to sleep, I was awoken by the sound of Snickers coming into my house to check up on me.
QUESTION OF THE DAY...
What question is your dream answering?
QUOTE OF THE DAY...
Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions.
-- Edgar Cayce
As the story has it, one day I headed to the opposite side of the globe – the Flipside. I arrived in Korea February 16th, 2005 and thought I’d do a year, then leave. I was wrong. I stayed, launched my first company, Flipside Fitness, and then opened Korea's largest boxing club, Hulk's Boxing (now called Hulk's Club).
After 11.5yrs in Korea, I then picked up one day and returned to Toronto, Canada. But then I left again.
Now I live in the Philippines where I am the CEO and head coach of Empowered Clubhouse, the Philippines' first and only boxing clubhouse exclusively just for women. I also am the founder of the Lil' Sistas Project, CEO and designer of Slay Gear and Baa Baa Black Sheep .Ph.
20 comments:
He is THE ONE for you Amy.
I agree.
I think you finally hit the nail on the head with this guy, Am, and so consider yourself extremely blessed to have found something that so many people can only wish to experience and leave it for the movies to master it. This is so so-real. Take it and go with it.
Yo Mark,
I think so, too.
Hi Anonymous,
... me, too.
Hello Ali,
Thank you very much, I think I'm totally blessed too. He's just so incredibly amazing to me and super supportive with all that I do and stand for. I'm definitely going for it.
Cute.
Not to be a complete nay-sayer, as he seems nice enough and you do seen happy, but you've only known this guy 3 weeks. Seriously less than two months ago you were still "in love" with Q (and in a full-blown relationship with him). Healthy people need time to get to know each other. Also, his actions last night combined with yours sound like two drama addicts high on new love ready to crash quickly.
I really hope that doesn't happen, but I also have watched your relationship patterns on the blog and I'm concerned. Please keep your eyes open, here. Something is really off about this much intimacy this quickly.
No Kidding! Way too much, too fast. How can you be 'In love' with Q and be in a two year relationship with him, yet be able to date someone new within a few days after breaking up with him? I'm sure this new relationship feels 'so perfect' right now but unfortunately reality will soon set in. This all sounds like 'bliss' and that's completely different to love, but this is all very typical of a new relationship, WHEN YOU'RE FOURTEEN!!! This feels a little too silly to me (no offense). I think Q is actually better-off without you.(again, no offense. I'm just being honest).
I'm sorry but this has 'disaster' written all over it. I agree that Q dodged a huge bullet.
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks ;)
Hello Anonymous.. another one,
It's okay, I don't think you're a nay-sayer but you're wrong in how long I've known him. I met him about four months ago when he was training with his coach at my boxing club. We trained together and then about two months ago or so we started to really talk. We'd meet almost every night or call each other every day and talk for hours.
As for the drama addicts, the only drama here is that of which you Anonymous commenters are stirring up.
Thanks for the warning but I am quite okay on my own. If it were for you commenters I would have been married by now to a man that was SO not for me, so I think I'll stick to simply amusing myself with your guys' advice.
As for your comment about "this much intimacy", define intimacy because I think you have the wrong idea here.
Hello YET ANOTHER Anonymous... how original,
How can I be in another relationship so fast you ask? Well, considering Q and I died late last September when his true colours were unexpectantly shown and resentment resulted, it's easy. I needed to know that that relationship was dead and six feet under. Having my sponsors and those around me expecting me to work things out with Q and our "picture perfect" relationship kept me hanging on, hoping it'd return to what it once was.
And as for Q, we both better off without each other, more so me than him.
No offense taken.
Hello yet another original Anonymous,
Didn't realize we were shoting each other or playing a game. But then again, coming from commenters who only know but a slice of the story I guess it's to be expected.
I wouldn't even bother explaining yourself to them Amy. People will always find ways to take things out of context and see what they want to see. If you're happy than that's all that matters.
BE HAPPY ON YOUR OWN TERMS.
DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU, AFTERALL, YOU'VE BEEN YOU FOR 28 YEARS NOW.
How long have they been you? My point proven.
Kf. has a valid point there, I do admit.
I didn't know it was your birthday Amy! Why didn't you tell me you just celebrated your 14th birthday?
Look at this way, despite the dumbasses that shower your homepage with their own drama-filled comments, at least they've upgraded you from 13 to 14.
Moving up girl.
All jokes aside, I think a lot of your commenters really need to wake up. Q was so wrong for you in so many ways.
If there's one thing I've learned about love Amy it's that love isn't some game with rules and regulations to follow. The only thing to follow is your heart and if your heart is leading your way and you're happy, than who are any of us to judge you and take that away from you. Enjoy your new found happiness. It's a blessing, a miracle, and it's something between you and someone else. Don't let anyone point you in an else what direction. You're on the right path.
You keep claiming the relationship died in September, but you were gripping onto that thing so tightly, refusing to give it up, refusing to admit that you should break up with a bunch of commenting people told you it was over. (Hey...maybe we're smarter than you think, Amy!)
THAT refusal to see the truth is not adult behavior. Jumping into another relationship so quickly is NOT adult behavior. (And you ranted and raved that you do NOT jump into another relationship so quickly and wow, oh wow, we so don't get you. Yet again...we were right.) Scream all you want that it is, get all of your friends to scream that it is--screaming isn't adult behavior either.
Again, the people who are cautioning her to slow down are not suggesting she should still be with Q. Actually, I remember I commented anonymously REPEATEDLY that her relationship with Q was unhealthy. (Although I must say, Amy, that some of your friends who are suggesting murder ought to be evaluated psychologically).
However, she defended him at that time--insisting that she really loved him and must stay with him for a variety of reasons. Therefore, the rationalization that it was over in September does NOT apply. Emotionally, Amy, you were still involved until you finally broke up with him. And you continue to have emotional issues you haven't recovered from because the scars are too recent. You should give yourself the proper time to heal before you can truly be available to a new guy.
Additionally, "intimacy" can mean many things. I in no way implied you were sleeping with Snickers. We all know how puritannical you are about "icky sex" issues. I simply meant that you love advertising how "close" you two are (after knowing each other for just a short time) on your blog, so I would think you considered yourself intimate with him. I'm sorry if I was wrong.
Hi EVERYONE,
I think the past is something to learn from, yes, but I'm not particularly interested in dwelling on it like a vast majority of you are doing. Relationships come and relationships go, and Q and I are SO over and done with whether you'd like to admit it or not. I've moved past Q, WAY past Q, and I no longer care to talk about him, dwell on him, or give into any kind of fictional drama many of you are taking my words out of context and stirring up.
Get over him. I have, why can't you?
Q and I had our thing, but now it's over; it's dead. Let it rest in peace as supposed to digging the dead horse up. You can't kill what's already dead and I refuse to let your negative comments and critisim kill what I have already started with Snickers.
Snickers and I are a couple, accept that. We're not 14 and we're not running off to get married, but instead are enjoying our time together and enjoying life. We're happy, accept that. For once there's no drama in my life due to some guy and yet many of you insist on trying to create some. Relax will ya. Watch a soap opera if you want some drama.
Regardless of whether you think I got into a relationship too soon or not is totally irrelevant now. The relationship has already started and I'm not about to turn back now. And so what, so what if it fails down the line.. is that the worst thing that could ever happen in my life? No.
For quite some time now I've been definitely sitting on the fence with regards to Canada and Korea, but now I'm only on one side and am happy. Things have finally fallen into place in my life and I am finally at a point where I am seriously happy. I no longer question where I want to be right now. I want to be in Korea, and not just because of Snickers, but also because of my personal goals with my boxing and Korean language studies.
For a long time there I had to deal with many of you telling me to pick a side, Canada or Korea, but now that I've found my place, now it's other things you're telling me to do. Stop telling me to do things and just let me live my life. I realize that many of you are trying to give me sincere advice, I appreciate that, but like "Lover of Life" said, "If there's one thing I've learned about love Amy it's that love isn't some game with rules and regulations to follow. The only thing to follow is your heart and if your heart is leading your way and you're happy, than who are any of us to judge you and take that away from you."
Whether you agree or don't agree with my current situation, why some of you continually want to stamp out my happiness is beyond me.
Life is good... real good... fantastic actually. I no longer wake up every morning wishing I was any where else but my downtown apartment in Cheonan, South Korea, and that fact alone is what makes me smile every morning. I have a beautiful loving family back in Canada, friends who I love to pieces, a boyfriend who loves me to pieces and who I am head over heels for, a wonderful job I can hardly call a job considering my hours and how much I love it, a dog who's cooler than cool, my boxing that's taking me way beyond where I thought I would go and that's given me a whole new set of family, a great apartment where I love living and love the fact that the maintenance man totally goes out of his way to be sweet to me, a whole new set of coworkers (many of which I think are fantastic), and I've never been healthier in my life.
Despite my random foot injuries and exhaustion from training, I really don't have much to complain about but commenters on my homepage. I try to be cool with people saying whatever but after almost 4 years now of people talking smack and whatnot, it gets kind of old and annoying. I can't help but cringe when I read some of your comments, praying that my mother doesn't click on the comment link and read them.
If you can't accept my happiness or you don't believe it to be true for whatever reason, that's your own perogative, but please be gentle with your words and remember that I too, just like you, make mistakes. I'm sure you've done some pretty stupid things too.
What I'm doing with my life right now is not a mistake and although I would love to take back things I've done, I can't... so get over it. What's done is done, it's in the past.
I live in the present, join me.
4 years? People only really started reading this until 2 years ago, and the nasty comments about a year ago, I think.
But whatever, you're right. It's been getting a little too crazy here.
Hi Emily,
Yup, 4 years. If you note at the top of my homepage there's a counter saying how many days I've been doing my homepage ("Blog Lifespan").
I broke up with my boyfriend last July and started dating my now current husband a week later. There are NO rules. Life is too short to follow rules other than what feels good for you.
So yes it is possible to end a relationship and get into another one quickly if the guy is the right one.
I'm glad you are happy, we all deserve that!!
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