Highlights of my Day... Sunday, October 25

1. Woke up to Snickers telling me that he wanted to go “bling-bling shopping”, as he put it. He wanted to get a couple ring but as much as maybe I should have been happy to hear this, it frustrated me. I think couple rings are a Korean thing because I’ve never heard about them in Canada or the States. But the thing about couple rings that doesn’t interest me is that even middle school kids wear them and so I don’t consider them to be all that special. Moreover, I figured that if Snickers were to buy me a couple ring then it pretty much meant he wouldn’t get me an engagement ring, and I’m all about the engagement ring!

2. I thought I’d go along with it though and so off we paraded downtown in the search of the perfect couple ring. We never did find a couple ring that we liked but instead I was able to enlighten him with a bit of western culture regarding how the whole proposal goes down and the rings that are involved. Speaking of rings though, we still really don’t know what’s up with Koreans and whether or not they even give a proposal ring when they actually propose.

3. We contemplated the whole Korean way of proposing while shopping and thought we’d entertain ourselves by asking random people what they thought. The sushi master where we ate lunch told us that the proposal ring he gave his wife was also the wedding ring, meaning that she never got a second band but instead just wears the one ring. The girl at Coffee Bean told us that her fiance used their couple rings as a kind of proposal ring, and the jewelry seller told us that more and more Koreans are switching to the western way of proposing (proposal ring followed by a wedding band at the actual wedding). This lead us to the next natural question, what do you do with the couple ring later on?

4. One question led to another and of course the more and more questions we thought we got answered, the more and more questions we had.

5. With every ring we looked at Snickers asked me if I liked it. “If I like it there’d be no question about whether or not I do. It’d just be an automatic answer on my face” and with that, by mid-afternoon Snickers was convinced he had found the perfect ring. He’s also convinced that I am definitely a lady of luxery… hahaha. Apparently I amused the jeweler sellers with my selections. With every shop we went to, Snickers had me pick out my top two. Turns out my top two also sported the top two price tags in each shop… hahaha.

6. Honestly, to me the more and more rings we looked at, the more and more they started to look the same. I’m not a very traditional person in the style of things I like. All I know is that I prefer a white gold ring that’s not so cookie-cutter-like. If marriage is till death do us part and I’m going to be wearing this ring for the rest of my life, it better be reflective of who and what I am.

7. I’m not too sure of what ring Snickers had labeled as the “perfect ring” but I will note that there were two rings that I really liked. I saw this one ring that looked like three bands of diamonds that crossed in the middle and had a bigger diamond at the crossing point (similar to the picture posted above). I also saw this one particular butterfly ring (not similar to the picture posted above but I like that ring too). I’ve always had a thing for butterflies ever since my second year of university. Butterflies have a particularly special meaning to me but wouldn’t it be a bit strange to have a butterfly engagement ring? I thought it was gorgeous but it of course would cause a problem with trying to add a wedding band to it later. But then again, if a traditional way of things has never really been my way, why go traditional now with the need of a wedding band, right?

8. Today was definitely an overload of engagement and wedding talk, but it didn’t stop there. Snickers then made a strange excuse about having to feed his dad’s dogs and off he left me home alone at Guum Ggum. He returned much later but I was already in bed. I wasn’t asleep but was merely pretending to be, mind ya, my plan to raid his jacket pockets didn’t go as planned when he stood in the kitchen brushing his teeth instead of in the bathroom.

9. I woke up today with Snickers talking to me about engagement stuff and then I went to bed talking about engagement stuff. Snickers wanted to hear all about my previous engagements, both of which were terrible. Note to guys: proposing to a girl on an already special holiday (ie. Valentine’s Day or Christmas) doesn’t really make the proposal special. And not making a big deal out of something (the proposal) that is a big deal to about 99% of females will not only get your name dragged through mud every time she has to tell the proposal story to her friends (and you know she’s going to be asked a billion and one times), but it also kills the proposal. I’ve been proposed to twice and both times my reaction was “Are you kidding me… you asking me like this???” And on both occasions, I excused myself after and cried in the bathroom because of disappointment. Come to think of it, both my proposals were, as I now call them, “scared proposals”. My first proposal came about after my boyfriend cheated on me. He thought I was going to leave him and so he proposed. My second proposal occurred two days before I was scheduled to move to Korea – and it was on Valentine’s Day. In both cases, both guys thought that proposing to me was the one sure way to convince me they loved me and to keep a grip on me. It never worked though but I guess it made for a good story here on my homepage… hahaha.

10. Taught Snickers how to say “Will you marry me?” in English… hahaha.

QUESTION OF THE DAY...
If we're all about equality these days, then why aren't more women proposing to the men?

QUOTE OF THE DAY...
A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time.
-- Anne Taylor Fleming