Who You Calling Desperate?!... Thursday, October 28

With Snickers not around and me taking the week off boxing, I’ve only been running and working this week… and indulging in a little something-something, too I should add. I almost feel ashamed (sarcastically speaking that is) to admit this but I’ve been quite the couch potato lately. I totally blame it on the fact that a heated floor is like a much needed hug after freezing my tush off driving to and from work. Of course, I could blame it on the fact that I have way too much time on my hands and that I’ve become this big home-body, but heaven help me take the blame, of course… hahaha.

So this little something-something that I’ve been indulging in lately came about as a suggestion from the lady at the DVD rental shop. I went in one night for a movie and walked out with her suggested rental, episodes 1-4 of the TV show “Desperate Housewives”. Beyond boxing and K1 fights blaring on my TV, I don’t really tune into the tele beyond the random show on the Discovery Channel or the Fashion Channel, and even then I don’t really follow one show in particular.

My mom always told me that TV rots your brain and well, if this is true, than my brain is fried – completely fried.

I popped in the Desperate Housewives DVD and instantly I was hooked – totally blaming it on the fact that the actress Terri Thatcher, who I use to love from back in the day when she was on the show Superman, is on the show. If you don’t know the show than I recommend you not to watch it, you too my fine feathered friend may become highly addicted.

Basically, it’s a show about a street full of housewives who are, well as the title tells you, desperate – desperate for love and everything and anything you could remotely connect to it. Honestly, the show kind of makes me feel uncomfortable watching it because it’s loaded with infidelity, lies, abuse, and you name it in relationships. It’s got the good, the bad, and the ugly relationships but there’s definitely more bad and ugly than good. The only character I can really relate to is that of Terri’s character – Susan, a hopeless romantic single mom who falls in love with the bad boy. I guess Mi Nam would have to count as my child in this connection.

Every single relationship on this show however has many negative points, so it got me thinking about my own relationship with Snickers. What are our bad points, our issues?

Well, the expected language barrier has never really been a barrier in our relationship despite the fact that when we met I didn’t have a good handle on Korean and Snickers’ English level was in the minus numbers. I think, if anything, the numerous differences in our cultures have been the underlying weak point but not in the way you’d expect it to be. Sure, there are sometimes when Snickers is so unbelievably Korean and, of course, there are sometimes when I’m such a pain-staking foreigner, leaving us clashing heads. Having said this though, ironically these clashes in our culture have also been what has kept our relationship interesting and certainly not boring. Moreover, I think because we both come from two far corners of the world that we have developed a higher tolerance and acceptance for each other’s differences. There will always been things I regard as strange in his culture, as I am sure he thinks there’s many strange things connected to my culture, but we’ve been pretty successful at making a kind of fusion culture between the two of us… which leads me to what exactly it is about our cultural differences that has formed a weak point.

Our weakness lies in outside forces -- the relationships we have with others. It is in those outside of our relationship, those who try to dissect our relationship, those who try to force their cultural ideals and throw cultural curve balls our way. Both our cultures have many expectations on the numerous titles we both wear. Many times these expectations clash and many times there’s people outside looking in that are quick to point out such clashes.

I think the fact that we got married with no one else but two witnesses says a lot about our relationship, our desire to keep it between the two of us and not allow others to influence it. Our relationship it is to be enjoyed, cherished, nourished, and respected but it is to be so on our own terms, not on someone else’s terms or according to someone else's ideals.

QUESTION OF THE DAY...
Are you someone else's weakness walking around on two legs?

QUOTE OF THE DAY...
If you're not a part of the solution than you're a part of the problem.
-- Author Unknown