1. Poop hit the fan today, real early today… 2:12am to be exact. I don’t really want to get into it, again, and so I’ll say that it resulted with me pulling the batteries from my door code box, making it impossible for anyone (me) to leave or enter (Q).
2. I was sure Q would get the hint and go home, no such luck, and so when someone started pounding on my door around 4am I had no idea of who it was. It was Q. He had fallen asleep outside my door and woke up to talk to me.
3. OK,… so I’m kind of contradicting myself by saying I didn’t want to get into it again by talking about it. I’ll stop here and drop the whole issue. It was pretty ugly though.
4. I made Q cry. There’s something about seeing him cry that really freaks me out and really stirs things in me. Oddly enough, I think Q is most beautiful when he is in his most vulnerable state. I’m a foreigner to his country and he’s a foreigner to foreigners and so we’re both in a way kind of in the same position; both trying to make sense of something we may never be able to wrap our heads around.
5. In a conversation I had with Buff Boy the Original this past week I had mentioned that too many people are predictable, too cookie-cutter-like, and that while we’re all trying to be different and whatnot, our efforts to make our selves different is what in fact makes us similar. When you get down to the nitty-gritty roots of it all, very few are really quite unique, like Q. I’ve always thought that dating was pretty simple but here in Korea it’s so different and now I know that it takes a really uniquely different Korean man to date and have a relationship with a foreign girl. Q’s definitely going against traditional social expectations by dating me and heaven help it if we get married, then he’ll definitely be going against more than just social expectations. He’ll be going against his family’s expectations. Sure, his family likes me but I’m pretty sure they don’t know I don’t want to bare them the expected son they’re so eagerly waiting for and I’m not going to be one of those stay-at-home-moms who cooks and cleans because my paycheck is pretty sweet, I love my job, and my boxing is too sweet for me to even consider giving it up any time soon.
6. On account that I didn’t get back to sleep until 7am, I texted my Korean teacher and told her I couldn’t go to tutoring today.
7. Spent the rest of the day in lazy mode. Headed out to Kyobo Books, then to the movies, and then did some grocery shopping.
8. Taught myself how to make tuna kimbab, cool!!! Now I can make my own kimbab, minus the 600 some calories that the tuna kimbabs at kimbab chunkuk have. Plan next week is to attempt making various funky versions of the traditional kimbab, like chicken kimbab and egg omelet kimbab… hahaha.
9. Yesterday marked my 100th day for writing everyday in my Korean journal and so today Q surprised me with a gift and made me dinner to celebrate the occasion.
10. Tomorrow Q and I are hoping to go on a mini car adventure with Mi Nam and so tonight we tried to get Mi Nam accustomed to the big plastic container he’ll be sitting in while we drive. Based on Mi Nam’s past track record and brutally messy experiences with cars, we figure that tomorrow’s attempt is going to be another messy car ride.
QUESTION OF THE DAY...
What note are you singing?
QUOTE OF THE DAY...
You don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note.
-- Doug Floyd
As the story has it, one day I headed to the opposite side of the globe – the Flipside. I arrived in Korea February 16th, 2005 and thought I’d do a year, then leave. I was wrong. I stayed, launched my first company, Flipside Fitness, and then opened Korea's largest boxing club, Hulk's Boxing (now called Hulk's Club).
After 11.5yrs in Korea, I then picked up one day and returned to Toronto, Canada. But then I left again.
Now I live in the Philippines where I am the CEO and head coach of Empowered Clubhouse, the Philippines' first and only boxing clubhouse exclusively just for women. I also am the founder of the Lil' Sistas Project, CEO and designer of Slay Gear and Baa Baa Black Sheep .Ph.
4 comments:
Intense, and confusing. What do you mean he fell asleep OUTSIDE your door? He randomly came by to say hi at 4am, then when you didnt answer he went to sleep in the hallway?
And if this was a big, made him cry incident, then whyd you guys have dinner?
I know Im missing a lot of info here!
-Bman
Yo Bman,
Ya, it was. He came by after the junior boxing dinner party and knocked on my door but I didn't answer. So, he sat down, leaned against my apartment door and fell asleep. Then at 4am he woke up and started to knock on my door again.
I know, there's a LOT that I've edited out... a LOT... but I have good reason. It'd be one thing if it were just you reading but my mother, some coworkers (I'm assuming) and others read my homepage so I can't really write so freely anymore. The whole crying situation was the ending of it all. We reached a consensus (sp?) and took the rest of the day to do "damage recovery", if you'd call it that. So dinner together was kind of needed to make it official that things are OK once again.
Wow. Can't he just take a hint and leave? Or is staying romantic...I'm not sure how you girls think haha. I wish we could talk more so I could know what's going on when big things like this happen. I'm glad you guys were able to work it out. I think that's the most important part of a relationship, the ability to overcome problems.
-Bman
Hey Bman,
I guess note but that's just the thing. He lacks in the thinking process so what would be a natural reaction to you and me isn't so natural to him... damn.
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