It was Valentine's Day and yes I had a Valentine, but neither he nor I prepared any kind of Valentine's Day gift for each other, we're not really a couple that does that. I did however prepare Valentine's Day chocolate and little cards for anyone and everyone who walked into Hulk's. I automatically claimed them my Valentine so I had about 30 Valentines today, and why not? Who says I can't have a few dozen Valentines? Exactly. From members coming to exercise to a delivery man and even some firemen, if you came into Hulk's today I gave you a little gift. The reactions varied just about as much as the range of recipients did and it was hilarious. Many responded with a long "awww" and a huge "thank you" while others hugged me and giggled. Some gave me gifts and one even let me touch his hose, his fire truck hose that is... oh relax. One Hulkie resorted to tickling me when I gave her a Valentine, a sure sign that she already had a strong flow of chocolate and sugar flowing through her veins... hahaha.
Today is Valentine's Day and, just as predicted, various single friend's complaints about "not having a Valentine" flooded their status updates on Facebook. You don't have a Valentine?! What exactly does that mean anyways? A Valentine doesn't have to necessarily be a boyfriend or girlfriend, a husband or a wife. Back when I was in school, a Valentine was anyone who you gave a cheesy little cut-out V-Day card to.
I'm a little annoyed with "love hungry" people as Snickers has so creatively labelled them. Love comes when the time is right and no whining or pushing it to come is going to help it. Why would you want something you had to beg for anyways and yes, I used the word "beg" because that's what so many of them seem to be doing. I know some particular people who continually throw pity parties and harp on the fact that they're single and I just want to seriously shake some sense into them. It's better to be single than in a relationship that's not right. So maybe right now you're saying in your mind, "Easy for you to say Amy, you're married", fair enough, but I went through my fair share of wrong relationships, surely some that were more wrong than others. I loved being single and now I love being taken because I'm in a relationship that's right. I never pushed my relationship with Snickers to happen and, if you recall my relationship with Q, I almost totally missed out on my relationship with Snickers because I was in a relationship that wasn't right. I should have been single but our friendship -- Q and I -- had turned into an assumed couple by many, including us. It was comfortable and it was easier just to go along with it than to end it. I cared a lot about Q, still do, and I did love him but I knew he was not the love of my life. I knew it and he knew it. I ended up doing to him exactly what The Ex did to me, breaking his heart instead of stopping things before it got to that point.
Most of my friends here in Korea are single while most of my friends in Canada are taken, doesn't mean my taken friends are any happier than my single friends though. Happiness doesn't come from anything or anyone outside of YOU. Happiness is from within and my best advice to my single friends is if they're not happy being single then they're not going to be happy being taken.
Sure it's nice to have that "special someone" to cuddle up to on the couch but it's also nice to not have to do someone else's laundry too and take on someone else's family. It works both ways and who says that "special someone" can't be a four-legged friend or even a close friend? I'm not talking about a "friend with benefits" but just a close friend. When I was in the hospital after a taxi smacked me on my scooter, I had a male Korean friend come and lay beside me on my hospital bed. I had two actually -- one that was a male friend of mine and one that was a common male friend of Snickers and I. There were no "special benefits" being passed between us beyond a genuine honest friendship and neither of us really thought of the other as being a member of the opposite sex. I was the injured friend, stressed about missing out on training for an upcoming fight and race, and they were the supportive friend there trying to cheer me up.
Today was Valentine's Day and I spent it enjoying whomever I wanted to label as my Valentine's Day because that's what the day is all about, sharing the love. Valentine's Day isn't about what love you don't have, it's about what love you do have, and today I had a lot of love. I've got much love for my husband and our four-legged family, our Hulkies, my K-Crew, my Bere's across the ocean and my Kim's here in K-Country, and all my beautiful friends here and in the Great White North.
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