As the story has it, one day I headed to the opposite side of the globe – the Flipside. I arrived in Korea February 16th, 2005 and thought I’d do a year, then leave. I was wrong. I stayed, launched my first company, Flipside Fitness, and then opened Korea's largest boxing club, Hulk's Boxing (now called Hulk's Club).

After 11.5yrs in Korea, I then picked up one day and returned to Toronto, Canada. But then I left again.

Now I live in the Philippines where I am the CEO and head coach of Empowered Clubhouse, the Philippines' first and only boxing clubhouse exclusively just for women. I also am the founder of the Lil' Sistas Project, CEO and designer of Slay Gear and Baa Baa Black Sheep .Ph.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

A Social Flush on Facebook... Saturday, May 17

I'm a stubborn, stubborn woman, I definitely know that.  I'm so stubborn that they really need to make up a new word just to describe people like me.  Despite still sporting a very painful black toenail and a messed up finger that thankfully has returned to it's natural size and isn't swollen still, I headed into training tonight.  I had posted online and had texted numerous Hulkies, telling them that I'd be opening up the club for Free Train.

No one showed.  Well, not at first but then, about 25 minutes into my training, one Hulkie did.

It's so much harder for me to train by myself than it is when there's even just one additional person in the club so I end up having to crank the music up loud, as if to help motivate myself.  Tonight's motivation however came from some friends on Facebook -- some super fierce, super hardcore fellow female pro boxer friends.  Today a handful of them had weigh-in for their fight so Facebook was flooded with words of relief from them meeting their weigh-in weights and excitement over their fights tomorrow.  I've been following many of them through their training and am just so inspired and motivated by their unwavering commitment to boxing.  It's incredible -- they're incredible.

Recently I've decided to distant myself from many people in Cheonan and by "people" I mean the expat community.  Consequently I have unfriend quite a lot of expat "Facebook friends".  Honestly it's really nothing personal.  I just want to keep my Facebook for my friends, as in those I actually associate with beyond just seeing their name pop up on my Facebook home screen.  If those in Cheonan want to connect with me than they can do so via joining the Hulk's Facebook group page.  I had noted this decision on Facebook and said it was to take back the "personal" in personal page but that wasn't exactly the whole story.  I don't particularly feel connected or involved with the expat community.  Moreover though, I'm no longer interested in racking up the Cheonan expat numbers on my personal Facebook page because, oddly enough, my biggest stress here in Korea and ultimately my biggest disappointment has come from many of them, well that and the whole baby-pushing issue.   I never felt that because I'm a foreigner and you're a foreigner then we must be friends, but it definitely does hurt a lot more when it is a fellow expat that has disappointed you.

In unfriending many, I then went and accepted several extra "friends" on Facebook, many of whom I've never met or don't know so well.  The one thing all these Facebook friends have in common is that they're all in the professional boxing community.  I want to surround myself with positive, like-minded people, in particular other professional female boxers who I can relate to and who inspire me like others can't.  Ultimately, I have pretty much left the foreign community here and have further submerged myself in the boxing community.  I justify this move with my own personal goals I have with my boxing and the fact that many of them have achieved the very goals I'm pursuing.  I need to stay focused and I felt so many of those I unfriended just distracted and discouraged me.  

If you want to become great then surround yourself with greatness, that's exactly what I'm doing here.  And I can't tell you how incredibly motivating it is to log into my personal Facebook page and see countless boxing pics and status updates of those training hard or having a wicked sparring session.  That's what I want to see everyday and that's now what I do see everyday.  

I've got some really butt-kicking inspirational people in my life -- I have a club jam-packed with Hulkies all trying to better themselves, some key friends here who help me be a better person, positive friends in Canada and beyond who miss me and support me, a whole whack of fellow female pro boxers who I really connect with and admire, and now some extra super motivating Facebook friends who motivate me like none other.

I know this one particular female pro boxer on Facebook who can do the plank for FIFTEEN MINUTES!!! Yes, you read right.  And here I thought my four minute plank was impressive.  Holy humbling!  I'm quite happy with the Facebook friend list I have even if they are a stranger to me outside of Facebook.  Sometimes it's really hard to stay passionate about my boxing and training so it's incredibly refreshing to see I'm not the only one toughing it out.  Whether it's Yamada doing her daily roadwork with her sister, Brandy killing a weight training workout, Tori getting ready for her fight, or Jujeath going from boxing into MMA, these women are truly inspirational and I can't help but feel motivated to stay focused on my goals because of them.  They've made the impossible possible and I am eager to make myself reach their ranks.  This is what motivates me and inspires me, not the pity parties or he-said-she-said updates I used to see from some particular people I have since unfriended.  I'm trying really hard to better myself -- mind, body and spirit -- so a social flush seemed appropriate.

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