As the story has it, one day I headed to the opposite side of the globe – the Flipside. I arrived in Korea on February 16th, 2005 and thought I’d do a year, then leave. I went from being some random foreign girl to taking on labels I never imagined – university professor, film extra, professional boxer, reality TV star, CEO of my own girls-only fitness company (Flipside Fitness), CEO of my own boxing club (Hulk's Club, formerly known as Hulk's Boxing), and now I'm launching my 3rd business -- Empowered Clubhouse.

After 11.5yrs in Korea, I then picked up one day and returned to Toronto, Canada. But then I left again. This time it was for the Philippines. That's where I am now, living in the land of the happy people. The struggles are real and the struggles are many but I'm living life on my terms, I'm calling the shots, and I'm doing what I love. Life is an amazing adventure and this is my story of yesterday.

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

He's Not Invited Here... Tuesday, January 23

I've had 902 days of "freedom" so far and 10,669kms of safety.  Then I moved to the Philippines and it went down to 2,542kms and the days continued to add up but now it's going down to double digits and my days will end soon.  Soon our path will cross again and I will have to start all over again.

The fear is real.  

Today I woke up to one of my Hulkies messaging me, telling me that "he's" coming to the Philippines but I already knew that.  What I didn't know though is he's been telling everyone that he's coming to live here for three months, for work.

You know who he is.

It's really easy to hide things... "things"... when you're a boxer. Bruises, scratches and a swollen face become expected and no one thinks twice of them. They may not have seen how you got such injuries at training but they're quick to just write them off because, well, you're a boxer. You get punched in the face for a living. But do I?! I hid a lot of things in Korea.  And then I left.  I had reached the point where it was either leave and survive or stay and die.  The exaggeration on that statement isn't exaggeration at all.  It's a fact and the reality of it scared the hell out of me so I really had no choice but to leave. 

I don't know if I can hide this anymore because in the very near future I will be literally face to face with him again.  I thank God I haven't advertised where I live, my condo building, and I thank God that I don't actually have a location set up for Empowered just yet.  It makes me a bit harder to pin point and search out.  I knew me leaving Korea didn't rule out one day having to confront him but I never thought I'd be doing it in the Philippines. 

In Canada, they wouldn't grant my divorce because I had been out of the country for so long.  Legally, I had to be there for a year before they'd consider it.  I couldn't afford the legal fees to hire a bilingual lawyer than understood both Canadian and Korean law.  And then I moved to the Philippines, a country that doesn't even have divorce.  

It's crazy, to have married someone you were head over heels for and then have that same person become your biggest fear.  I don't wish him any bad but I don't wish him any good either.  I just wish for him to leave me alone.

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